I like makeup. I wear it almost every day. I think eyeliner is the best. I really like being able to cover up my zits and under eye circles. Does that make makeup an inherently ‘good’ thing? Does it mean that makeup is feminist and progressive because I am feminist and progressive? Does it mean that the only possible reason I could ‘enjoy’ wearing makeup is because I like it, point blank? No. Of course not. I wear makeup because I grew up in a culture that scrutinizes women’s looks and values their appearances above all else. I live in a consumer culture that invents flaws and insecurities in order to be able to sell us things that will ‘fix’ our flaws.
So makeup isn’t really the best. There are many aspects of the beauty industry that can and should be critiqued. But does that make me a terrible person because I wear makeup? No. Does it mean I’m not a real feminist because I wear makeup? Of course not. But it also doesn’t mean it’s perfectly fine and awesome and that I shouldn’t explore or acknowledge the fact that I wear makeup because I was taught and bought into the idea that, in one way or another, I was going to be judged based on my appearance and that I’ve been convinced and have convinced myself that I needed to wear makeup in order to avoid looking ugly and sick."
It’s Not About You: Beyond Kink Shaming by Meagan Murphy on FeministCurrent
This is actually a piece about BDSM, but I liked this bit and I think it makes a good argument for how one can be critical of a practice and not be saying that those who engage in it are terrible people. Also, more generally, the idea that not all choices are feminist and choices don’t exist in a vacuum, etc etc.
"The label made me write a letter to pass out to radio stations…swearing that the phrase was actually ‘being stone’ — not ‘stoned.’ True story."
"Men who want to be feminists do not need to be given a space in feminism. They need to take the space they have in society & make it feminist."
^^^^ I believe this as much as I believe anything. ^^^^